mardi 4 juin 2019

By Larry Murphy


A beautiful day can be ruined by a single act when you least expect it. This leaves you seething with raw emotions to the point of taking a nasty drastic action. Experts advise people to manage these feelings because they may cause a lot of damage. But how do you deal with them before you hurt people or damage property?

The simplest and easiest way to deal with rage is to take a deep breath. This can be done on spot and spontaneously. It gives you the precious delay that will stop you from taking an action that you will regret for the rest of your life. You will also be buying time to help you view the issue from a better perspective.

Put yourself in the shoes of your offender. Some reactions come from lack of deeper thought or failure to understand the circumstance that led the person into making the decision that you now consider atrocious. Taking a moment to think of the person allows you to have a better understanding of the situation. It dawns on you that your reaction could have been similar in the same circumstance.

Take off to give yourself time to cool down. Remaining at the scene causes your mind to continue processing negativity. When the mind continues being toxic, your reaction will also be negative. Take leave to assess the situation and rethink the best action. It saves you from making a disastrous decision that you end up regretting in future.

Master your thoughts. Any action you take and the feelings that persist will depend on what is going on in your mind. Control the ideas that are being digested on your mind. Avoid being negative. Find a solution as fast as possible. Stop any negative thought whenever it crops up. Such an action will prevent you from acting in a way that you will regret in future.

Tap into controlled behavior. This requires you to divorce yourself from the situation and reset to character. Some reactions will not represent your character. It takes practice to achieve this. The approach is similar to being the bigger-man in an argument. Avoid being the kind of person who would react to everything negatively.

Identify the feeling, acknowledge its existence and accept the entire scenario. This consciousness helps you to realize how close you are to taking a regrettable action. Since the feelings have been identified and accepted, they can easily be dealt with.

Soothe yourself. Each person has a way of calming his or her senses down. It could be by humming a song, taking a walk, tapping on the desk, watching the horizon or even talking to someone. The technique buys time and also helps you avoid drastic and regrettable actions. It takes practice and a lot of restraint to take control of your emotions.

Find a reliable support system that you can lean on. Some people talk to a friend, family, colleague or senior, among others, who help you offload the overflowing emotions. Such support enables you to make a more informed and level headed decision that you will not regret.




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